Overwhelming Rage

I hate so badly that I feel like I can’t put every single detail in here that goes with a situation. But I realize I have given this blog out to so many friends and I am just not comfortable with openly expressing such details with everyone. That being said…let’s move on.

Sunday just kicked off in a bad way. My husband managed to do one little (really minor) thing that set my day off on the wrong foot. But after I told him the error of his ways, he apologized and we moved on. It just seemed to snowball from there. One minor difficulty after another. And after about three, I had a feeling come over me that I haven’t felt in many years….since I was in my 20’s and I was “unmedicated”. This overwhelming sense of rage and anger possessed me and I wanted to smash things, throw things, beat on something or someone! I remember the feeling well because it happened often before I started taking anti-depressants and nearly got me fired from my job. I tried my best to refrain from speaking to my family because I knew I would lash out and say something I would regret later. I chose to do some cleaning tasks.

I tackled the litter box first. As I tried to empty the old litter into a trash bag, the box was so heavy I could not lift it alone. So I tried to prop it against the plastic tub of cat litter. It kept slipping and I kept throwing it back up there making quite a bit of racket. Not once did Luke come and offer to help. I finally managed to get all the old litter dumped into an old Target bag. When I set the box down and lifted the Target bag to tie it off, I saw litter on the floor and realized it had a hole in the bottom. More anger, more reckless tossing around of stuff until I got it wrangled into another plastic bag to contain it. Part 1 was complete.

Now to clean out the box itself. I chucked the lid into the box with the scoop and loudly threw them on the floor outside my laundry room. Then I hauled them outside in the back yard where I threw them around while trying to hose them down and use PineSol to clean them. Finally got that done.

I don’t need to go any further with all that. I think you can see that I was just full of pent up anger. I took on the ironing and laundry next. I never managed to come up with anything for dinner.

Here I am three days later. I talked to my sister tonight. I was trying to fill her in on everything since the last time we talked. Well, I had a little tidbit I had held back from everyone except one close friend. I spilled it to her. I told her I had been corresponding with Adam’s younger sister (see the Guitar Boy post). She was happy for me to make that connection. The down side is that his parents have not changed; they are still embarrassed by who he was. The stories she imparted to me were embellished…and I knew they were from speaking to one of his close friends in DC at the time of his death. I would never tell her so. Never. It would break her heart and damage her relationship with her parents. The poor girl only has ONE photo of her brother. And told me that her parents have held back information from her because she is the baby. I flowed freely with some great fun stories of times we shared together and she seemed so happy to hear about them. She sent me the only photo she had of Adam. When I opened it, my heart sank. It was taken just shortly before he died. He was so gaunt; his knees couldn’t be any bigger than my wrist. And his face and neck were so thin. His hands look like a skeleton. According to the family legend, Adam was interviewing for the Red Hot Chili Peppers guitarist position (which (I do not doubt). He had some promotional photos made (one of the ones his sister sent) for the process. According to his sister, she was told he got the position and was with them for two weeks before he overdosed. Oddly, I was in touch with a very close friend of his via email when I found out about his death. Mike never once mentioned any of this. And I know he would have. That band meant the WORLD to Adam. If he’d gotten that position, everyone would know it. Again, just another way his parents were trying to make him look suitable for their liking.

So it just occurred to me tonight. This is where all the rage came from. I am mad at his parents to this day. I am mad at the world that he is gone. I am mad that his parents saw him looking so ill and gaunt and didn’t even care. I’m mad that they would feel they had to LIE about his position in life to look good. It all sucks. And they are evil.  His sister told me I was welcome in their home. No thank you. I am not sure I could face them. He was no worse than any of the rest of us! As a matter of fact, he was BETTER than most of us because of his God given talent!

I don’t know what else to say about it right now. I’m sad. I miss him. He was such a beautiful person.


Nanny’s stuff

I just noticed my second cousin posted my Nanny’s dining room set on Facebook to sell. How ’bout them apples! My sister and I have tried multiple times to correspond with her on Facebook and she won’t return any of our messages. Nice.  What the hell is wrong with people?


**UPDATE** My sister Kelly contacted her saying she wanted the furniture. Garland is asking her for $1700 for the buffet, table and chairs….plus we have to pay the shipping from South Carolina. I plan to get one of my shit-stirring cousins involved.

Oh the irony!

Norma came to visit weekend before last to see Cole and Ila play their soccer and football games. They haven’t seen her since we were in Orange Beach over the summer.

On Saturday morning as we stood watching Ila’s soccer game, Norma told me a story about meeting her future son-in-law’s mother a a recent bridal shower. Norma explained that Mrs. Patterson was very prominent in local society and wanted to speak to her about the marriage. Mrs. Patterson explained to Norma that divorce did not happen in their family and she hoped Haley understood her place was to stand by Ben regardless of circumstances. Well, Norma didn’t take that too well and explained to Mrs. Patterson the following:

“Well if your son chooses to run around with every floozy in town like her father did, then divorce WILL happen in your family. “

I had to stand there and bite my tongue as I thought of my father and how he ran around on my mother all the time. I wanted so badly to say that but I didn’t.